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Asexuality

Resources and information on asexuality.

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Welcome to the Asexuality and Aromantic Resources subject guide for Indiana University Bloomington

We're glad you're here. This guide contains information and resources pertaining to Asexuality and Aromanticism. Here you'll find Books & MediaScholarly Resources, and a curated list of local and online resources surrounding Aro/Ace identities.

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Notable Flags and Their Meanings

 

Asexuality: A term used to describe someone who does not experience sexual attraction toward individuals of any gender. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, and is different from celibacy, in that celibacy is the choice to refrain from engaging in sexual behaviors and does not comment on one’s sexual attractions. An asexual individual may choose to engage in sexual behaviors for various reasons even while not experiencing sexual attraction.

 

Asexual Pride Flag Colors and their Meanings:

Black represents asexuality

Grey represents grey-ace people and demisexuality in the asexual spectrum

White represents allosexuality (presence of sexual attraction); also representing non-asexual allies

Purple represents community

Aromanticism: A term usually used to describe people who don’t feel romantic attraction to others, which means they generally don’t desire to be in romantic relationships with people, or engage in romantic acts with others. Aromantic folks can feel sexual attraction and can be of any sexual orientation or gender identity. 

 

Aromantic Pride Flag Colors and their Meanings:

Green and Light Green represents the aromantic spectrum (green is thought to be the opposite color of red, a color commonly associated with romance)

White represents platonic love and friendship

Grey represents demiromantic and grey-aromantic people

Black represents the spectrum of different sexualities

Greysexual: A term used to describe people who experience limited sexual attraction. Similar terms include grey-ace, grey-a, or grey asexuality. Milith Rusignuolo devised the first greysexual flag, which was uploaded to Wikipedia on June 21st, 2013. 

 

Greysexual Pride Flag Colors and their Meanings:

Purple represents asexuality

Grey stands for the greysexual spectrum or feeling little or infrequent sexual attraction

White stands for allosexuality or feeling sexual attraction

Greyromantic: A term used to describe people who may experience romantic attraction, but very infrequently or experiencing very little romantic attraction. Other experiences greyromantic people may feel include experiencing romantic attraction but having little desire for a romantic relationship, feeling attraction only in specific circumstances, and feeling unsure or alienated from romance.

 

Greyromantic Pride Flag Colors and their Meanings:

Green represents aromanticism and the aromantic spectrum (green is thought to be the opposite color of red, a color commonly associated with romance)

Grey represents the spectrum of demiromantic and grey-romantic people

White represents platonic love and friendship

Demisexual: A term used to describe someone that only experiences sexual attraction after developing emotional connections. Most demisexuals feel sexual attraction rarely compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity.

 

Demisexual Pride Flag Colors and their Meanings:

Black represents asexuality

White represents allosexuality (the presence of sexual attraction)

Grey represents the spectrum of greysexuality 

Purple represents community

Demiromantic: A term used to describe people who don't have a primary romantic attraction and would need to have a deep emotional connection in order to feel romantic attraction.

 

Demiromantic Pride Flag and 

Green represents aromantic (green is thought to be the opposite color of red, a color commonly associated with romance)

White represents platonic love and friendship

Grey and Black represents demiromantic and grey-aromantic orientations

About Allonormativity

Allonormativity is the assumption that all people experience sexual attraction or allosexual.

Amatonormativity is the assumption that all human beings pursue love or romance, especially by means of a monogamous long-term relationship. The term was coined by Elizabeth Brake, in her book Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Mortality, and the Law (2011). 

Allonormativity and amatonormativity can do harm by making aspec people feel broken or like something is missing, have a medical issue that needs to be fixed, or making people feel pressured to date or have sex even if they don't want to.

Examples of Allonormativity:

  • Equating sexual inexperience with immaturity
  • Medical professionals assuming that lack of sexual activity is cause of concern
  • Assumption that sexual liberation means having sex, that not having sex means you are repressing your sexuality
  • Many queer spaces and resources emphasize sex over other forms of queer relationships/identities

Examples of Amatonormativity:

  • Assuming that everyone wants to get married, and unmarried/unpartnered people are lonely/unhappy
  • Treating romantic relationships as more important than friendships
  • The structuring of society around married couples (housing, taxes, etc.)
  • "Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend/partner yet?"

Allies of asexual and aromantic people can consider their contributions of allonormativity and amatonormativity and work to minimize these assumptions about romantic and sexual norms. Challenge assumptions that romantic/sexual relationships must be the most important relationship in someone's life. Also, use this libguide as a resource to educate yourself on ace and aro topics as well as engage in aro/ace media and support aro/ace creators.

(Content pulled from Asexual and Aromantic Community and Education Club at Smith College)